Frustration comes with the territory with any skill in life. If it's not properly managed, it can destroy one's desire to sing or play. This has happened to me with guitar numerous times. So many times I want to turn my guitar into a baseball bat! When that happens, I put it down, walk away, and come back a day or two later. I tell myself "DO NOT QUIT!"
The desire to quit can be overwhelming. But once I pick up the guitar again, I am almost always a little further along than previously. This is why it's so important to never give up. You may feel like it, but coming back with an improvement is proof that you should work through that feeling.
When I have vocal students who are struggling with a concept, I watch for a rise in their frustration level. Once I see this, I redirect them. When frustration boils over, it can lead to a desire to quit, which we can not have! Once I redirect, we find a way to work around whatever is causing the stumbling block. We are then able to fix the issue or find a way to manage it.
Below is a humorous account of how I sometimes feel when I'm musically frustrated, and I show this to my students to take the edge off for them. As you will see, where there is a problem, there is a solution.
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i just wanted to thank you. I was on facebook and by accident hit the link to this page,but before i could hit the exit button the caption caught my attention. I have recently struggled with frustration and actually have told myself that by jan.1 I needed to make a desicion if i was going to continue or not. I thought I was done and I had decided to not continue, my excuse was i was burnt out. This however is a horse of different color. So thank you for helping me realize that even though sometimes we dont want to, we need to maybe just step away for awhile, and in time come back to the things we love. thank you
ReplyDeleteThanks, just don't bang your head into any pianos!
ReplyDeleteHi future divas and divos don't give up and remember how much you love to sing.
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